Sunday, June 17, 2018

Can I Have A Do Over?


It has been 20 Father's Days since I lost my dad.  Twenty, yet feels like yesterday.   A good friend told me, a few days after his passing, that I would never get over it, but that it would just become part of my normal world.  She was so right.  Over the years there have been times when I definitely am not "over" it.  My wedding, and the girls' adoption are two where he was noticeably absent.  I know I am not the only child who has lost a parent, and I know how blessed I am to have had him with me for 26 yrs but some days it just plain stinks that he is gone. 

I miss him. I miss his big rough hands, hearing him call me sis, and I even miss his deadly big toenail that he would dig into my leg when I was in reach and he was feeling feisty!  

This little pity party of mine will last but a moment and I will once again be laughing at something he would always say or do but for this moment I long for the day when we will be together again. 




Monday, June 11, 2018

Your Off To Great Places


Getting ready to board the bus with her favorite Stake YW leader!!

My momma heart is a mess of emotions today as Priscilla kicks off her high school days with a Church History tour.  This trip is a must do for the youth of our stake and is talked about for years! Over 500 youth, ages 14-18, are bused, 100 at a time, across the country to New York to embark on a 2 week trip touring sites of interest to LDS Church History. They will make stops at LDS Church History sites in Independence, Missouri; Palmyra, New York; Kirtland, Ohio; Nauvoo, Illinois; Omaha, Nebraska; and other places along the way.  

I am so excited for her to have this experience and I can't wait to hear ALL about it! 

Sunday, June 10, 2018

Mom Finds Social Media

I am a little embarrassed to admit that it has been almost five years since I have entered a blog post, after all, I love reading blogs, especially those that belong to family and friends! But now here sit, trying to wrap my brain around the fact that I allowed other forms, hello Facebook and Instagram, of instant social media to grab hold of me. They made it look so fun and it would for sure simplify my life, right? Eh, not really.

Over the last month I have felt the need to back away from the heavy use of social media. I mentioned to Erik that I needed to cut back on the time I spent there as it didn't always leave me feeling my best. Then, last week, the parents of the youth, in our ward at church, were invited to watch a special broadcast from President Nelson. During this broadcast he asked the youth to take a break from all social media for 7 days. Those words grabbed my heart and didn't let go!! I came home and uninstalled Facebook and Instagram and felt a little less burdened. I wish I could say I didn't miss it, but I can say that I have felt better and as each day passed the desire to browse has been less. 

One blessing, if you can really call it that, is that I have rediscovered my love for blogs. I stumbled across a blog of an aquaitance and through her posts I was reminded of why I love to read blogs!! The stories they tell make me get to know the writer, their family, their triumphs, their struggles. Anyway, this made me think of my long forgotten blog, that I once loved posting too, even if it was only read by one other person. I wanted it back.

So here I am, reviving my old friend. I hope to be more consistent in my postings and I will clean up the side bars, update some pictures, and try to form proper sentences. I am not the best writer, grammar and punctuation are not my strong suits, unless excessive use of exclamation points count, but I will hopefully put a little smile on your heart and a chuckle in your belly when you decide to stop by.  I won't try to play catch up, just the thought is overwhelming, but I may be able to fill in some of the blanks as we go along!! 

Saturday, July 13, 2013

Wharf Fun!


PICTURE HEAVY POST...you have been warned!

We ventured off to Stearns Wharf in Santa Barbara.  What started out as something that sounded fun, from our google search, the previous night in the hotel room, turned out to be a fantastic find!  One of the selling points for us during our search was the Ty Warner Sea Center that offers interactive exhibits, hands on tanks to touch sea creatures, and a "research center".

Driving onto the pier.  The girls LOVED this.  It was fun to hear their squeals and giggles as the boards moved and creaked as we drove across! 

My squinting family!!  




We are crab fisherman!!  
While eating lunch we had a view of the end of the pier.  I saw this boy casting a net and a few minutes later pulling it up, a few times there were crab in it.  He didn't seem to be "fishing" as he kept throwing them back in.  I asked Erik if they rented fishing supplies on the pier.  He doubted it and was just over come with joy when I said we needed to find out!  As soon as we finished lunch I made a bee line towards the little shops and sure enough I found the Bait and Tackle shop.  I marched in, leaving Erik and the girls perplexed outside, and asked the man behind the counter if I could rent a crab net.  He didn't think I was crazy, just asked for a 20 buck deposit and told me I had to buy bait!!  Easy enough, hook me up!  After asking where the best place to catch some crab would be, after all I didn't want "the girls" to be disappointed, we headed down the pier.  By now the girls are excited, Erik is still wondering why he married me, and I am tying my rope to the ladder!  Melody tosses our net into the water and all three girls immediately plop down on their bellies on the pier to watch.  We waited about ten minutes, pulled up our net and SUCCESS!!!  We caught three soft shelled crab and two decorator crabs.  Now Erik is having fun!  The girls are having a ball chasing the crabs, other tourists come over to check out the catch and I am just loving it all!  We spent a good hour crabbing and it never got old!  


The decorator crab.  They pull seaweed, dirt and whatever else strikes their fancy from the ocean floor and rub it onto their shells.  Their shells are rough like velcro so everything sticks.  They were fascinating!  Some where more extravagant than others.

This fun little pier is definitely getting a return visit from us! 

"The Cross"

When Erik was growing up he and his friends would cruise main street and then head up, up, up the hill to what they called the cross.  It is beautiful up there, I wish we would have gotten up there earlier for better pictures!

 I heart them!!  





I would love my patio to over look this!!  

Friday, July 12, 2013

Did Anyone Notice The Beach?

That sentence has brought many a laugh to our family and now has Priscilla rolling her eyes when she hears it.  As we were out and about cruising up and down the beach access road a 20 something yr old girl suddenly darted out into the street.  Erik hollers whoa as he slams on the brakes, and the same time I am hollering Erik!  Not two seconds later Priscilla chimes in from the back "Did anyone notice the beach?"!!  Erik and I started laughing so hard!  Her timing could not have been better!!  Luckily for her we found the beach that day!!






It Was An Honor Mom

Erik's family gathered in California, last week, to celebrate the life of his mom.  What a remarkable woman she was.  I fell in love with her on our first meeting while Erik and I were just dating.  She treated me as a daughter from the moment Erik and I married and there was never any in-law awkwardness between us.  I will never forget the excitement in her voice when we told her that we would finally be giving her 3 granddaughters!  She couldn't wait to meet them and the shower of spoils started immediately.  Of course the girls fell in love with her as soon as they climbed onto her lap and she sealed the deal with apple pie and ice cream for breakfast! 

That smile!

 The gang is gathered! 
Gary, Bernie, Egon, Erik, Chuck, Lesly, Cason, Jim, Steven, Toni, Becky, Dorothy, Tex
Serenity, Priscilla, Melody, Larry

Chuck, Toni, Steven, Erik, Jim 

 Uncle Larry, Gary and Bernie



Tuesday, May 21, 2013

The Mad Scientist!

Many of you already know that I love to concoct so I took a stab at lip balm.  It needs a little adjusting but I am on to something!
I cheated and melted the ingredients in the microwave but have since learned a new trick and will be using a pint sized mason jar in a pan of water.  (Thanks Abby!!)

 Filling the tubes was so much fun!  

Now they need to harden overnight.  

Sunday, May 19, 2013

Sunday Snack


We have all had the wonderfully delicious frozen banana at Disneyland, and I am sure most of you have seen the knock off post on Pinterest.  Soooo today after church, in need of something sweet, I tried it and fell in love! 

I only had two bananas so I sliced them unto chunks.

Dipped them in chocolate chips that I lazily melted in the microwave


Rolled them in crushed walnuts, it is what I had on hand.

Plopped them on a was paper lined plate, popped them in the freezer and about 45 min later we dove in! 

They were super easy, delicious and something I would like to have a ziploc full of in the freezer for that little something sweet craving that hits.

Tuesday, February 5, 2013

'Til We Meet Again

Marion Ell Owens Heckenlively
Marion Heckenlively slipped quietly away on February 2, 2013, in Newport, Wash., following a bout with pneumonia. She was ready to rejoin her beloved husband, Clarence, who preceded her in death last June.
She was born Marion Ell Owens on December 8, 1928, in the tiny East Texas Panhandle town of Mobeetie. The second-youngest of eight children born to Thomas and Gertrude Owens, she grew up on the family farm and attended Mobeetie High School, where she excelled athletically in basketball and softball. She graduated with the Class of 1946.
Shortly after graduation she moved to Lemoore, Calif., where she worked for Dr. Floyd Lees and married Alfred Ramos. The couple divorced soon after the birth of their daughter, Toni, in 1954. Marion moved to Oak View and went to work at Rains Department Store in Ojai.
She married Clarence "Heck" Heckenlively in 1957 and they moved to Ventura, where the family grew over the next decade with the births of sons, Steven, Chuck, Jim and Erik. She also helped raise her stepson, Danny. The family returned to Oak View after the birth of their youngest son.
Taking care of her children was Marion's full-time job for several years, but once they were in school she entered the field of nursing, working first at St. Joseph's Convalescent Hospital in Ojai and later as a private home-care nurse for a family in Santa Barbara.
Marion loved the outdoors and shared Heck's hobbies of rock- and bottle-collecting. Weekends often found the family searching local beaches and bluffs for petrified whale bone or Indian beads, or exploring the deserts and ghost towns of Southern California and Nevada in search of agate or old glassware.
She was a member of the Ventura Gem & Mineral Society for many years, and created several award-winning pieces of lapidary work. She was a "tomboy" her entire life, and proud of it. She loved to camp and fish, and was a wiz at organizing food and clothing for a week in the Sierras for eight people. But she was also well-versed in the domestic arts: she was a talented seamstress; a great traditional Southern cook (no one could beat her fried chicken, biscuits and gravy or peach cobbler); she crafted small, delicate crocheted ornaments and large, ornate macrame pieces; and she loved her flower garden, especially her prized "pee-OH-nies."
Marion suffered a brain aneurysm in 1966 that nearly took her life. She astounded the doctors, who said she wouldn't make it: she not only survived, but eventually regained limited use of her right arm and leg, then learned to compensate sufficiently with her left to pass her driver's test and return to work.
Marion and Heck retired in 1988 and moved from Southern California to 10 rustic acres near the small community of Oldtown, in northern Idaho. She loved the beauty, the isolation, and the snowy winters. She endured further serious health challenges in the last decade of her life, yet she never lost her optimism, her resilience or her sense of humor. She never indulged in self-pity. It took very little to fill her heart with joy: visits from her children and grandchildren, and such simple pleasures as sitting outside in the sunshine or going for long drives through the countryside.
In addition to her children and their spouses, Marion is survived by her stepdaughters, Jill and Judith; 20 grandchildren and great-grandchildren; and several nieces and nephews. A private service will be held in California at a later date.


Headed to Catalina on her Honeymoon with Heck


Love the red lipstick!


With her sister Mick.  Those two were TROUBLE!!


 The girls loved Grandma Marion!